Friendships are like the constellations in our personal universe, guiding us through various phases of life. Reflecting on my journey, I see these relationships as a dynamic interplay of energy and vibration, evolving as I have grown.
One of the earliest and most cherished friendships began right next door. My neighbor turned friend has been a constant companion throughout my life. From childhood adventures to sharing the ups and downs of adult life, our bond has always been a source of comfort and stability. This friendship is grounded in shared history and mutual understanding, a testament to the enduring power of true connection. We are so different, yet so similar. We never went to the same school, or even had the same circle of friends. She was always more confident than me, and I just didn't vibe with her tribe. But the two of us, we had a special connection and bond, that simply had its own vibe. She was and is always there for me, especially during a phase in my life when I thought my life was falling apart. They say it takes trauma for some people to awaken and truly heal. This was certainly the case for me, and during this journey I met another wonderful soulmate.
My journey into spiritual healing introduced me to a friend whose presence has been profoundly transformative. As I delved deeper into self-discovery and spiritual growth, I met someone who was on a similar path. Our connection was instantaneous, resonating with a frequency that felt both familiar and uplifting. This friendship was forged in the crucible of healing, where we supported each other through the ebbs and flows of personal growth. It’s a reminder of how powerful it can be to align with someone who mirrors your own journey of transformation.
Some friendships ebb and flow like the tides. These are the relationships that have come in and out of my life, often when I least expected them. Despite the periods of distance, there’s a unique comfort in reconnecting. These friends have played various roles, sometimes stepping back and other times returning with renewed energy. Our shared experiences, despite the gaps, have created a bond that is both resilient and rewarding.
However not all friendships withstand the test of time. As I’ve evolved, some relationships have naturally drifted apart. This drifting is often a result of changes in our energies and vibrations. I’ve learned to accept that not all connections are meant to last forever, especially when they no longer resonate with my current self. It’s a process of gradual release, where I find myself naturally pulling away from relationships that no longer align with my values or energy.
There have been times when parting ways with certain friendships required more than just keeping a distance—it called for a decisive break. I’ve discovered that cutting ties and cords and releasing toxic influences is crucial for my well-being. These are the relationships marked by jealousy, negativity, or a lack of genuine intention, and not a give and take relationship.
Often, the shift starts subtly. Perhaps a friend gets a new partner and becomes so absorbed in their relationship that they no longer invest in the friendship. You might notice invitations and calls dwindling. While it’s natural for friendships to shift when someone enters a new relationship, it’s important to question whether this is a temporary phase or a recurring pattern. When you find yourself repeatedly playing the role of a supportive friend during the breakups, only to be sidelined once the relationship stabilizes, or a new one starts, it’s worth asking, "What is my role in this dynamic?" Am I merely a safety net for their breakups and an endless sounding board for their dating woes, only to be replaced by a new partner, or the same partner ? We can only be a doormat for so long.
There’s a saying: if someone truly values you, they will make the effort to stay connected. I have friends I see infrequently, but our interactions always feel genuine and fulfilling. We make the effort to reach out, and our connections are enriching rather than draining. The above is not the relationship I'm talking about, and intuitively you will also know to differentiate between the two.
Sometimes, the process of ending a friendship and other relationships is gradual and evolves over time. Other times, it requires a decisive cut. This process has been pivotal in preserving my energy and focusing on relationships that bring mutual enrichment. When I’ve chosen to remove people from my life or cut energetic cords, I often feel a renewed sense of lightness and freedom, affirming that the decision was right.
I’ve spent much of my life giving, sometimes at the expense of my own needs. I’ve learned that for a relationship to be truly fulfilling, it must be reciprocal. I no longer invest in connections that do not positively contribute to my life. This shift has empowered me to focus on relationships that support, uplift, and resonate with my current vibration. I’ve stopped making excuses for those who fail to reciprocate and instead prioritize connections that genuinely enrich my life.
In conclusion, the evolution of my friendships mirrors my personal journey of growth and self-awareness. By aligning with the right energies and consciously releasing those that no longer serve me, I’ve created a supportive and harmonious network of relationships. This journey of connection and release has been transformative, helping me cultivate a life that truly resonates with who I am today.
In my next blog I will explore dynamics within family, so keep checking back
Keywords: Friendships, Personal Universe, Energy and Vibration, Growth, Companion, Comfort, Stability, Trauma, Spiritual Healing, Self-Discovery, Transformation, Cord Cutting, Release Negativity.
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